Friday, 3 October 2014

Magic Gate

Marriage will always be special, and when that happens they must remember that the essence of marriage is that it is a covenant, a commitment, a promise of future love, no matter if you’re gay or mixed race couple; when you are drawn together, ultimately it doesn’t matter what everybody thinks because it’s so honest, true, and sincere. How can that be wrong?

Patrick and Anuwat, finally their dream got granted. They have committed to engage their life forever..The ceremony took place at the city hall in Antwerp Belgium. I saw where exactly the rings were put on and signed the married agreement. Honestly I do not know them well, but my fiancĂ© is a friend of Anuwat, by the way it really touched me indeed. My heart fell in to the space where I couldn’t trace the dream and real life. It was such the dream but remaining true!

That was the thing I have been dreaming on. The scene that I am craving for, walking my own path and choose someone I desire to be with.  Now I really thanks to the God that gave me such a magic gate, the gate of every gay’s dream in my country. It’s not rest in peace but it’s live in peace :p  that’s how I  imagined and desire to live in: the life without prejudice and discrimination. 

Belgium became the second country in the world to legalize same-sex marriage on June 2003, after the Netherland. ‘Statutory cohabitation’, open to any two cohabitating persons, is also possible since 1 January 2000. Since then in two years earlier Belgian government reported 2,442 same sex marriages had taken place in the country. Even Mayor of Liege city, Willy Demeyer officiates the wedding of gay couple.

Patrick and Anuwat presented a different manner of wedding ceremony; it was simple but touching, how? They made the video of themselves by showing their feeling through Q and A session, so both testify their wishes, and thoughts. One more thing, they also gave us the superstitious “saying” by describing our life through the number that was given to us. So we got number 5 which says:

You are honest and fair, despite the vehemence with which life is lived. You can retain this. You are very restless and cannot be in one place long without getting nervous. You’re always afraid  you’ve missed the boat or the grass is greener on the other side. It is hard to keep you. Because you’re on the road again in your head to the next destination your concentration.

It surprised me, because it was true. That day wasn’t only about attending a wedding event but, that day gave a lesson learned. The lesson is to enjoy life and stay focus to the coming destination.
Thank you Patrick and Anuwat, you both already made the nicest picture ever in my life and you both are the one of the living proof of diversity. For me instead of witnessing their marriage I feel blessed to be here and be able to enjoy and explore my identity freely. Once again wish all the wishes are truly granted and have a long last family happily ever after. Love, Noki.

Tuesday, 8 July 2014

Let's Vote for a Better Indonesia


Pouring by fear recently. The series of radical action done by radical Muslim group going to happen more and more. The people views of jogja have strongly deteriorated, simply because the home town where I raised, and born, somehow gradually less secure.

Jogja as I know the city of which can serve a model of Indonesia national Moto Bhineka Tunggal Ika ( Unity in Diversity), because in fact real Yogyakartan can accept from outside the cultural difference bought by settlers.

As Yogyakartan, I mostly know what Yogyakarta principle is. It’s all indeed based on the philosophy Hamemayu Hayuning Bawono ( maintaining good relations with human being, fellow creature, the universe and with the almighty) and Hamengku Hamengkoni (Throne for people and welfare) which is rooted in the philosophy that foster a sense of divinity and build a sense of humanity rather than the religious sense, and a Sultan Yogyakarta as a symbol of cultural leader to protect both their own community as well as newcomer.
Now Yogyakarta tarnished by the violent which acted against religious inclusion. The group has forced the closure of churches and even was allegedly at the center of brutal mob attack on a Christian community in Sleman Yogyakarta. Many people injured physically and psychologically. The blood flew swiftly, the tears, and scars left a bad foot print in our heart.

Been there done that and hate that, vividly remember how the hard line  of Muslim group attacked brutally the book discussion of Irshad Manji. They hit, kicked, punched, and launched the stones towards us and yelled out Allahhuakbar at the same time. I don’t want to demeaning one of religion , because my family do not educate me to hate religion or hate others based on narrow and conservative sense.  I deplore those actions and turns out tarnished the name of Islam and so do the harmony of Yogyakarta.

Now I feel lost  my trust to my king, during this couple years the harmony remains silenced right away. I know my king already pledge signing statement but once again signing statements are the king opinion’s what the law should mean. My heart shuttered down in to pieces.

Why those  hard line Muslim group exist?

Why my leader can not act more than the words do?

Why my country doesn't look even better in this era?

Why politic in my country consist of the greediest people on earth?

My king can not do anything about it, and now I’m one of the 250 million people in Indonesia exhaling the vows to the most wiser than us, “please send  the Satrio Piningit ( Hidden Knight) among us..”

Hope, Right, and Our Future

Meanwhile exhaling the vows, this is talking about the deep thoughts . Hope is not more than “ I wish this to happen or “I wish this would happen”. But this is talking about how the millions life goes. I don’t want the crime and violence overshadowing our government. As I mentioned at the beginning I don’t want more bloods falling, kidnaps, violence,  and corruption. We are all exhausted with those political malpractices, hence this latest presidential election become the game that I should involve.  I need to take a stake in superior level by using my voice, it might be big challenge to grant the victory, but I put my whole life and hopes on it.  

Recent presidential election is our turning point to emerge the big changes in Indonesia history, people has been waiting and thinking nights and days. People now aware about politics, social media flooded by the negative and positive campaign, un-neutral media which mean an official newspaper, magazine, TV channel that implicitly submit the political interest  by vividly breaking the news values it selves.

The irresponsible Bounce back smear statements were adorned in social media, and somehow totally screw up and tarnished the true source of truth, and the worst is fiddled with people emotion. Friendship goes out with a difference of opinion.

Different of opinion should be used as opposed to thinking, instead of clashing emotions.  These kind of mentality deserve to be banished, then we need to elect a leader who can negate this legacy from Soeharto regime, where violence is a solution.

Now it's time to revive the legacy of reformers who gave their life to fight for our rights as citizens for the sake of a better life. Make this time as a good deal and maximize our rights to build change. Change will not happen if you keep quiet. Our lives are not our own. From womb to tomb, we are bound to others. Past and present. And by each crime and every kindness, we birth our future. Sonmi-451Cloud Atlas. So please focus on what you choose, tracing back all the candidates histories, compare, and verify it, make sure that he was known for his righteousness, prosperous rule and detached from criminal record . The future is depends on what  you do today.

Monday, 12 May 2014

Sunday, 26 January 2014

My Lovely Batik

Now time to us to reflect how amazing the treasure of Indonesia. We are not only have the blue of the sea, the white of the sand beach, the green of the forest, but we have Batik which become the symbol of our nation. Im so proud of some of the talented designers strive to change the conservative image in to the genuine and wearable one.We can see the fresh tone of colors, the (not) outdated style, and yes the perfect mixture of the other materials. Above all I love batik, and I love to be the witness of all what my home town has. Attached, that was some pictures of Batik fashion show in Jogjakarta which held by Tommy Wahyudi as the designers. 

Photograph: Nocky Chandra

Monday, 5 August 2013

Harajuku Style

Love the way I did in 2010, this is one of my premium master with my former colleague in WOMAGZ (word of magazine), we've been so productive and love the way we worked as a family. This section Harajuku style was chosen simply reflected the diversity and Siane as model has that "look"  so welcome and have a look those frames, merci d'avance. 

Credit title:
Photographer : Gede Wira
Model           : Siane
MUA            : Nocky

Friday, 10 May 2013

Man With The Colour

  Love's everywhere and everyone deserve to be loved. None of us has the right to bribe people happiness. Since we were born we don't  know what we're gonna be, and who we are. Label are made by society and those label seems like a myth, so do the "ideal" phrase. We should follow things what people think is right, once we act differently we are consider as "disorder". Been there done that and hate that. Bullying was like catastrophe for me, when I was kid I didn't know why people mocked me. They called me banshe, and faggot or whatever name it. This heart shattered down in to pieces, neither physically health granted nor the pride. People been yelling bad things at me simply I'm look feminine than "supposed to be". I'm still remember they came over me and pinch my ass then yelled out loud BANSHE BANSHE. I ran to chased them because I want to knock them down, but since they were so many, I couldn't reach them. That things happened on and on every day. At home I only able to cried, I couldn't told to my parents, because I want to look fine and strong. But finally I fed up and couldn't be bare those treatment. I was nearly committed suicide simply because for me "death" is easy and I thought death could make them understand how bully might take someone life,but at the end I realized that I was just hide my self from the fear I have parents and friends who still love me and " I have million reason to live"- Jonah Mowry.

  I thought that scars will remain faded but time has passed the feeling fear and beaten still left a foot print in my heart. I'm a man with the color and I do not have any sense of revenge to avenge all their deeds. My only prayer is I wish the best for all of the hauliers  and forgive their deeds. I am invite all of you to open the both eyes and hearts that life is so good and please do not taint it with hate, sin, envious, and jealous. I am the living proof of the bully and I don't wanna see more tears falling, scratch, bleed, mentally raped and death. We are all made by happiness and yes we only pursue happiness in life. So please stand up! to against bullying, let's wipe the scars from their life forever and ever. Life's no more beautiful without love.  

Make up: Me
Model : Clara Devi
Photograph: Clara Devi

Thursday, 4 April 2013

Magic Wand

My phone rang, I didn't recognise the number, I picked up the phone and after I heard the men voice "Hello", he said. I directly noticed that this one is my friend, "Hi Lambox" I replied. He called me because there will be preweeding job, and He told me he gonna hire me as a MUA. So the time has come I've packed my weapon kit and ready to inscribed their look with my magic wand.

Love had a good time with folks in a sunny day. One, two, three frames produced, and my hand keep swinging and inscribing the couple faces, and I saw smiles adorned in every caption. The shoots session were well underway, but during a break of photo session I took a walk, or sit in the hood, detach the exhaustion by seen how beautiful the nature is. I felt my lungs inflate with onrush of scenery air, mountains, trees, and people. I realised that John Muris is so true, he said "Everybody needs beauty as well as bread, places to play in and pray in, where nature may heal and give strength to body and soul."

I love my work, because I can see people smiles from my magic wand and above all is how I worship the magic of nature

Cloche hat: H&M
Oxford shoes: St. Mines
Watch : Emporio Armani
Leather belt: Roberto Cavali
Suspender: H&M
White Shirt: D&G

Credit Photo:
Photograph:  Lambox Sinaga
Photo Editor: Lambox Sinaga